How do I tell my sister in law that my Mom’s estate planning is none of her business?
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The sister in law is concerned about assets going into probate after my Mom dies. She assumes my Mom is doing nothing. I think there are other concerns that she is not telling me. I understand her concern, but feel this is an issue between me, my siblings and my Mom. I don’t know for sure what my Mom is planning, but from some things that she has said, I think she is doing something. At this point my I am not pressing the issue and I am giving my Mom the chance to make the first move. If she doesn’t, I or one of my siblings will bring it up when we feel the time is right. It is not my business to tell someone else my Mom’s business.
Tell her what you told us. Sounds reasonable.
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she sounds very nosy and just tell her to mind her own business or have your brother do it. It is none of her business.
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If it is none of her business, then do not discuss the matter with her. Do not tell her your plans or your feelings about the situation. Whenever you have to meet about it, do not include the sister-in-law. Just keep her out of it. If she asks questions, give her broad answers or tell her that it is too personal to discuss.
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Just talk to her reasonably. Tell her you understand her concern about probate and you feel the same way, but you feel you want your mom to decide on her own. Also let her know that if you don’t feel your mother is doing anything then you or one of your siblings will broach the subject with your mother. Let her know that you understand her concern, but that you and your siblings are aware of the situation and you will handle it.
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Have Your Brother Talk To Her.
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Its His Wife.
Is she just trying to be helpful? Does she have wisdom and experience to offer, or is she just pushy and nosy? That is a tricky area to work with… Perhaps you should sit down with your sister in law and listen to what she has to say. You may get some pearls of wisdom from her and then she may stop talking about it.
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Just like that! "My mom’s estate planning is none of your business….back off!. I do agree, you do not want it going to probate. Big headache!
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Tell her what you told us. Sounds reasonable.
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